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Is foreplay only making it to 3 and a ½ on a good day? Or worse…Maybe it’s next to non-existent. Or you’re getting so little just about anything will do! WAKE UP! Mix it up a little. Both men and women report wanting more foreplay so what are you all doing out there, if you both want more get to it!

Don’t fall into the familiarity trap of knowing what it takes to get your partner off, sticking with that and not trying anything new.

Foreplay is a very important part of stratifying sex – it helps the girls get lubricated and invariably leads to a much stronger erection for the boys. Win, Win, right?

Research, I know a dirty word, but seriously, research as shown that 15 minutes of satisfying foreplay is about what most couples say they want. It’s no secret that men reach orgasm more easily and faster than most women but with thoughtful, unrushed and meaningful foreplay more women report reaching orgasm more readily.

There isn’t any one method for foreplay to suit everyone but part of the experience can be experimenting with new things like starting fully clothed, the sensation of touch is quite different. Foreplay is more about love than sex.

Don’t rush headlong into intercourse, relax, talk if you’re comfortable doing it, ask questions – but don’t be tedious – remember what your partner doesn’t like but pretend you don’t know what they do like and try it with a twist. You won’t always be on the mark but really who cares if the two of you are having fun and turning each other on in the process.

How about starting your foreplay out in the open, I know public displays of affection are a big turn off for a lot of people but I’m not talking about climbing down her throat or into his pants in a shopping mall, I’m talking about a very discreet very suggestive touch, or a word whispered into an ear or a stolen moment behind a display stand, the thrill of perhaps getting caught can be mind bendingly exciting so watch out when you get behind closed doors.

We’re not advocating skirts-up or pants-down in public but you’ve all seen the couple who are clearly struggling to keep their hands off each other…Wanna be them again?

If things have gotten really stale how about introducing as little soft porn, something tailored towards the woman is preferable as it is more like to be a turn on. Check out reactions to new ideas and take it from there. Just relax and have some fun, life wasn’t meant to be too serious and foreplay was most certainly not supposed to be ‘boreplay’. Have a look at these