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Morning sex. Yes or no? Sex is better when you’re relaxed, that’s a given, and when you wake up you’re usually pretty relaxed. You wake up, find your partner beside you and the sex urge is triggered. Place and availability are also reasons to initiate sex as far as a man is concerned. But, and this is a significant but, women need an emotional trigger first.

Women are more likely to wake and almost immediately focus on the day ahead which a. starts the stress levels on and upward spiral and b. blocks all thoughts of lovemaking…Taking note of the difference here – lovemaking/sex.

Busy lives will often get in the way of morning love sessions, and evening love sessions for that matter. When you and your partner are not on the same emotionally ready level for sex it can become very mechanical and not very satisfying for either party. Some doctors believe that women have a greater emotional and sexual maturity. Where does this leave you? In the same place as before essentially, men are more physically driven, women emotionally driven…See the pattern?

If morning sex is going to get off the ground successfully the man needs to engage the women emotionally first. Don’t rush at it like a rutting bull, let her have time to wake up gently and introduce the idea slowly, eg. Don’t stick your rod in her back and say “how about it baby! An arm over in a gently caress, warm breath on her neck (avoiding direct contact with morning breath), “I’ll make breakfast, what would you like? (Taking the pressure off the immediate chores of the day. Remember nothing worth having in life is absolutely free).

A hug and leave it at that until the next time. Next time make it all about her and make sure she knows it’s all about her, make sure she knows that you don’t have any immediate expectations.

Now I know this is hard for many men because the sex urge is primal but learn a little self control and the rewards can be boundless.

So the keys: Slow down boy – engage her emotionally and don’t be phoney about it – make it about her for a while – share, everything including the early morning chores – make it about both of you, not just you – make it gentle, it’s not a wild party fuelled session and there’s usually a busy day ahead – be grateful but not obsequious. Morning sex can be about real passion if you get it right.