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Weight on v weight off. Don’t assume your partner doesn’t want to feel your body weight when you’re on top.

Ask her…most women say they feel safe, secure, loved and like feeling the power of their man when his weight is on them during lovemaking. Obviously, if there is a huge discrepancy in your body weights you don’t want to squash the life out of her so use your common sense.

The Porn Star Moves. Not a great idea to go straight for your favourite porn star moves so no gymnastics without prior discussion and consent. Your lady is unlikely to want to engage in the back breaking, contortionist moves of the hardened porn star. Disrespectful dirty talk won’t win you any brownie points nor will cumming all over her without serious prior discussion and agreement.

Participation. You don’t like it when she’s lying there clearly thinking of England so when she’s on top get with the program and participate. Move against her, lift your pelvis, raise your knees, if she’s facing you, you have access to all the places that will excite her, possibly beyond her ability to control herself. How’s that for unselfishness?

BORING. Mix it up a little, break out of the tried and possibly increasingly less effective moves and experiment, but don’t get too kinky from the outset. If you need to, study up a bit but not from the porn videos, try some gentle new positions, but don’t fake your interest in trying new things because she’ll see through you in an instant.

Wam Bam Bang. There are very few women who truly like rough, aggressive sex. Lovemaking to a woman (here you should note the difference between sex and lovemaking) is special and chances are she wants you to see it that way as well. A women needs to engage physically and emotionally simultaneously to achieve satisfying lovemaking and chances are you going in like a bull-at-a-gate is not going to do it for her at all. If you need to let her know who the man is do it with firmness and kindness not brute strength and rough play. And for goodness sake, make sure she is satisfied before you blow your load. Not good to leave her high and dry, so to speak.

The ½ Marathon. A women’s vagina has a limited ability to keep itself lubricated, but even with the best lube available chances are she’s not going to want you banging away for 40+ minutes to show her how much of a man you are, ‘cause quite frankly, anything even approaching 40 minutes, for most women, is too damn long and things start to hurt, she is likely to get bored and zone out altogether. That is not to say in-and-out-in-a-flash is going to work either. You’re smart figure it out. If you want longer sexual encounters it’s not all about penetration.