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Sex relies on the senses.

Cut off one of the senses, and your other senses become more sensitive to compensate.

Having sex blindfolded is an extraordinary way to jolt yourself out of the normal methods you rely on to arouse yourself – such as watching your partner – and awaken senses you didn’t even know you had.

Here are some tips for an extrasensory sexual experience.

Blindfolds for Beginners

The effect of a blindfold is not just to enhance your other senses, but also to introduce an element of surprise.

Imagine lying back on a bed, unable to see anything, while your partner tickles you with a feather, or kisses you in unexpected places, or strokes you with an ice cube.

Your senses go on high alert, trying to anticipate what your partner is going to do next. You listen to every sound … feel your partner’s every movement … smell scents you’d never noticed before, like your partner’s perfume or cologne.

And the surprise, when it comes, shocks your senses into even greater sensitivity.

That’s why so many couples combine blindfolding with some light bondage. When you’re immobilized, as well as unable to see, you experience a loss of control that’s ultimately liberating. If you’re usually the active one during sex, the role change can be strangely exciting.

Buying a Blindfold

The easiest blindfold is a simple scarf or bit of fabric, anything you can use to tie over your partner’s eyes.

But most fabric will allow some light through, so you don’t get the full effect. Or they can slip off and ruin the moment.

That’s why buying a blindfold is your best bet. During those times when you’re not using it for sexual play, you can use it as a sleep mask.

Casual users should look for a blindfold that’s fun rather than intimidating. Try this animal print blindfold (it even comes in a furry version!) or get one in soft colored suede.

For the ultimate in comfort, you can even get a blindfold that’s lined in sheepskin.

If you want something a little more hardcore, a studded black leather blindfold will go perfectly with BDSM gear.

Continuing the BDSM theme, this leather hood comes with a removable blindfold and expands the experience of sensory deprivation by muffling sound as well.

Using the Blindfold

You’ll have two very different experiences depending on whether you’re the one blindfolded or the one doing the blindfolding.

The person who’s blindfolded simply has to lie back and enjoy the experience.

The one doing the blindfolding has to do most of the work, but it’s less work than pleasure.

So, if you’re the one doing the blindfolding, what exactly do you do?

This is your chance to explore your partner’s sexual response without distraction. Every time you do something – trail a feather across your partner’s skin, tickle your partner someplace unexpected, lean close and let your hot breath warm your partner’s erotic zones – notice your partner’s response. You should be able to tell whether this is something your partner likes or not.

Alt.com, an alternative lifestyles website, has some super ideas on how to incorporate sound and smell in their article, “Love is Blindfolded.”

Don’t be afraid to play with pace. Once your partner is super-aroused and straining at the bit, so to speak, don’t be afraid to step away and do something else (like change into lingerie, or light a candle, or turn on music) and let your partner wonder where you’ve gone.

Nor should you be afraid of inviting your partner to participate. Take your partner’s hands and place them on the part of your body you want your partner to touch. Your partner will feel your body in a whole new way when they can’t see it.

You can even try feeding your partner while blindfolded. Place a strawberry between your partner’s lips, or give your partner a sip of champagne or wine, then seal it with a kiss.

There are endless ways you can play. All it takes is a little imagination!